So many times as humans we tend to complicate the simplicity of life. We often end up carrying crosses unconsciously, and sometime consciously, that doesn’t even have our name on them. We find ourselves agitated, complaining and scratching where we don’t itch primarily because we allow ourselves to suffer from the “hero syndrome’. While it is noble to be concerned and lend a helping hand to others and certain situations, we must use keen discernment as to the battles we embrace lest we find ourselves crippled by taking on an unwarranted debilitating yoke.
I have come up with a formula that drastically reduces stress, at least it has for me. I apply it to every adversity and challenge I encounter. If you are concerned about others thinking or speaking unfavorably of you, don’t be. People will think and speak what they will regardless. That is something out of our control. I prefer to live my life in peace (stress free) while I am here to enjoy it than R.I.P. knowing nothing about it due to allowing others and situations to take me to an early, untimely death caused by stress.
Here is my 3-Step process to eliminating stress:
1.) Identify the root of the problem/issue: So many times we stress and complain of a challenge we are facing when we were the one to invite the situation into our personal space. While it is unrealistic to think we can bask in a stress-free existence, the most attention a problematic situation should receive is the search for its true identity. Many times we waste our energy trying to get rid of the symptoms instead of the problem. (For example: if you keep on getting hung up in a spider’s web, stop getting rid of the web and get rid of the spider.) Then move on. DON’T STAY THERE!
2.) Create a list of options to rid the problem: Once you have identified the “true source” of the problem, transfer your energies to find a resolution to the problem. Make a tangible list if you must. (For example: Find the most effective way to get rid of the spider. Will you beat it to death with a shoe? Spray it with Raid? Drown it? Call the exterminator?) List the options as you believe them to be the best, most effective and quickest solution to the last resort. Once this is completed, transfer your energies into action, get it done. Once again, KEEP IT MOVING!!
3.) Eliminate the problem: Take action! Once you have killed the spider, let it go. You do not have to keep going back to make sure the spider is dead. When you have given 100% to the 3-step process, than there will be no need to doubt yourself and you can move on. If you are concerned about not having a challenge to deal with, you can let that go too. As long as you are above the dirt, you will be met with challenges. And if you don’t learn how to resolves the ones you have, they will accumulate. I repeat…LET IT GO!!!
The experiences in our lives are for us to learn from not to live in. If you have given your absolute best and haven’t been able to resolve the problem, then it wasn’t yours to resolve. LET IT GO! All the worrying, stress, lack of or excessive appetite, loss of sleep and wrinkled continence will only bring additional challenges, not improve or change what you are stressing about. Follow these three steps for a better quality of life. LET GO AND LIVE.
You will discover as a result that life is rather enjoyable when you don’t have to carry a cross that doesn’t have your name on it or try to control anything outside of your power to do so. Following this formula for stress reduction will allow you to see your blessing more clearly and embrace them instead of your vision being clouded by stress and discouragement.
~ Donovan Simons